False Responsibility

 Do you ever encounter a situation where, despite matters being completely out of your control, you feel burdened with a sense of guilt and responsibility over the events that had occurred? Even though you were completely removed or detached, you have the feeling that if you had done something different in your life, everything would have worked out for the better?

For the last ten or so years, I have encountered multiple situations of similar nature in which certain events line up in such a way that leave me feeling remarkably responsible for what had occurred. When I take a step back and observe these events with a level head, I can recognize that it is not physically possible in any shape or form for me to actually be responsible. But despite that, there is a shadow in the back of my heart that cannot see rational reason and as a result, guilt ensues.

The toughest part is that, by nature of these incidents, there is absolutely 100% nothing I can do to prevent them. And as my mental health is part of what makes me feel responsible, it feels like there is nothing I can do to sever the connection I feel between myself and these occurrences. 

So, how do I attain mastery and betterment over something I have absolutely nothing to do with? Frankly, I haven't got a clue. I believe the approach is to reach a point where I can accept that I am not responsible, yet this is something I have been struggling with for a very long time to no avail. For better or for worse, the only plan I can think of is the one I always fall back on; I need to become stronger. I just... haven't figured out how I am going to do that yet.