Hey guys, This weeks post will be a reflection, and an understanding.
When it comes down to it, everybody is different. Not one of us are the same. We all have different “strengths”, different “weakness”, something that makes us unique. When we break down what “strengthens” us and what “weakens” us, we can usually determine where our “weak” points are, and figure out the best ways to get rid of them. And yet, it doesn’t always work. We all have different “weaknesses”, and different perspectives on what qualifies to be a “weakness”. What we may consider to be a “weakness” may be considered a “strength” by someone else. Despite what we may consider to be a “weakness” being one of our most defining attributes, it’s also one of the most vital.
Nobody is perfect. It’s okay to have “weaknesses”. I met someone the other day who was completely distraught by their own personal flaws, and it made me realize how perfect it is, not to be perfect. Humans are naturally flawed. Some of them should be fixed, yes, but it’s natural for a reason. We live with our own struggles and challenges for a reason. A perfect human with no weakness would have no flaws and hence no struggles or challenges. To some, that may sound ideal. Yet I see that as one of the most boring ways to live life, on top of it dulling the most beautiful aspect of the human nature. See, humans have come as far as we have because we adapt and learn. We encounter an issue, and it becomes our mission to find out how to overcome that issue.
What I could consider to be my “big weaknesses” are not in my control. Some of the small things I can change, and I may. But each and every single characteristic of mine helps make me who I am. I’m not perfect, nor will I ever be. I have things which make me human, and that’s the beauty behind it. I am, just human. I’m just like everyone else, but at the same time I’m not. We all have to go through our own journey and discover our own path. I can’t judge anyone else based on their “weakness” or their “strength” because I am no different. I can only acknowledge my own flaws, and choose whether or not they should be fixed. Some of you may be thinking “all flaws should be fixed.” Greed and jealousy and anger are all flaws which can be fixed and by doing so may increase your quality of life, and make you happier, but when we live with a physical injury or mental flaw, it’s hard to fix. We can try as much as we can, but some things just can’t go away.
Over the last few years I’ve been very conflicted with my mental health. It has impacted me greater then any physical injury ever has, and I’ve always wanted it to go away. This is my “flaw” that I now find most beautiful. Because it’s not a “flaw”. It’s one of my greatest strengths. Who I am isn’t defined by my ability to lift weights or solve equations. Who I am is defined by who I think I am. As broken as I am, I am still a rock. Life will always throw something to break us, and as humans it’s up to us to continue to be our own rocks. Not a rock made of our “strengths”, but a rock composed of everything. And with that, I conclude we do not have “strengths” or “weaknesses” or flaws or attributes, hence them being in quotation. We have different characteristics, none positive or negative, which make us into the people we are today. We are all different, but we are all human, and we all struggle. Overcoming a struggle is just one more step on the journey to mastery.
By definition, some people assume mastery to mean perfection. That’s an understandable assumption, yet also wrong. Mastery, by definition, is to hold “comprehensive knowledge or skill in a subject or accomplishment.” To master something is to reach one of the best points you’re physically and mentally capable of achieving. Which means, despite our human-ness and our “flaws”, mastery is still achievable. I understand now that mastery is about improving yourself as far as you can reasonably go, and from there, understanding you tried as hard as you can. The moment you understand you’ve reached the limits of your physical and mental ability, and you can reflect and respect and take a moment to smile about it, is the moment that I believe you have mastered something. With that, I have done what I have been looking to do for the last 3 years. I have mastered my own mind. I’ve finally come to a peace with what goes on inside my head because I have done what I can and I can only live with with it now. And that’s what counts. My mind is my own, and whilst it still may be shrouded in some illusion, it is my own. And it always will be.